Beauty of Barrenness

Today, I get the honor of introducing to you, my lifelong best friend aka my husband Roger. I say "lifelong," because we have "till death do us part." Therefore, he will remain my best friend for my whole life. This post is to prepare you for tomorrows post. Last week, I felt led by the Lord to ask him if he'd be willing to share his side of the story. I've never really asked him how he felt through this season of barrenness. With a prayer, some hesitation & a night's worth of sleep, he agreed to it. So in preparation to his side of the story, I thought it would be fitting for you to meet him! Meet Roger. The love of my life. He's my knight and shining armor, and prince charming. He is 4 years older than me. He loves all things basketball & football. Especially the Sea Hawks! He is a full time Security Officer. He is my #1 fan & the greatest supporter. He is a passionate worship leader & is the best guitarist I know. He is ...

After 10 years of being together, we've learned that it is so crucial for you to continue dating your spouse. We weren't too intentional about our dates back then, but we sure are now! With Love Day around the corner, we thought we'd share some of our tips with you. 1. Start flirting again . Exchange fun text messages like the good ole days. Let them know how much you miss them. Or if you're old school, write a sentimental letter to each other. 2.   Keep asking questions. Don't ever let your conversations die out. Be intentional & get creative. There are ton's of resources out there to keep you talking. This continues the growth of your friendship as husband & wife. 3. Be adventurous. Learn to have fun again. Get back to being spontaneous and just go with the flow. If he comes up with a tacky idea, just go along with it, you'll reminisce back to the days when he was pursuing you. And if she plans an extensive date from start to finish, give ...

Next week Roger & I will be celebrating 11 years together! Around this time every year, I start to reflect on what God has taught us throughout the years that we've shared in marriage. Some look at us and will say its only been 10 years. Other's look at as and are amazed that we've even made it this far. I look at our marriage, & I can vouch that God knew what He was doing when He brought us together. Every year, we face more & more battles. Some are even against each other. But thankfully most of the time Jesus reminds us that the battle is against the enemy & not one another. I'm proud to say that I'm the wife of Roger. He is my best friend, my supporter, & #1 fan. Although he hates the unending questions that I have for him every time we come to reflect on our marriage. I know he appreciates them too. When we re-evaluate our marriage frequently, we're asking God, "What is your plan for our marriage?" In doing so, God has...

It's officially February! January went by all too fast! But I have to say it was a great month. I made a brave decision in investing time into this blog, I joined a 30 day blogging challenge to keep me on my toes, and I've been taking baby steps towards my God-given dreams! In January, Roger & I made an intentional goal: to pray together. We had days where we had to make exceptions & skip out, but at every opportunity we could, we made it priority. We didn't beat ourselves up too much about the nights where we were just too tired. God honored that. In a month's time, we've definitely felt much more spiritually connected. Not just because we were praying together every night. But also because we've been super intentional with our own personal relationship with Jesus. Oh, what a difference it makes when we choose to fix our eyes on Him. Everything else, really does fall into its place. Last night, my husband said something that was profoundly true,...

Roger & I have been married for 10 years now and one thing we've definitely learned is that we need friendship. 2015 was a hard year, I mean, when is life nor marriage not hard? You'll always face new challenges. I wish someone would've told us on our wedding day how important it is to stay friends in your marriage.  I honestly don't know when we lost that important factor of our marriage, but I guess once marriage happened, it was all about figuring out how to make it through life.We stopped asking questions. Stopped getting to know each other & we began to just conform to this normality of what we thought marriage was supposed to be. A Relational Retirement.  Last year, Roger & I literally felt like we came to a point where our marriage was going to end. Not because someone cheated or because we didn't get along. Most people I know would probably conclude & compromise at the fact that they "fell out of love" with each other. For us...

January 1st. The first day of the year, Roger (my awesome husband) & I went out for coffee for the first time and made that our "2016 planning date". We've never really been that intentional about making plans together. We have casually pointed out a few resolutions we had & maybe even scribbled it onto a restaurant napkin or post-it note, but that's about it.  We've been married for 10 years going on 11 next month!!!!!  10  YEARS?!?!? Time surely does fly, but it's slow in the midst of it. 10 years is equivalent to a decade. I've dedicated & committed 10 years to him & him to me. The thing is though, that between all those years, we've never actually made it a priority for us to be intentional. With each other, with our family, or our friends. But, we've recently just really felt a movement of people moving in a more purposeful way of living. Enough with the impossible resolutions. Its more about making realistic goals. Settin...