Beauty of Barrenness

It's officially February! January went by all too fast! But I have to say it was a great month. I made a brave decision in investing time into this blog, I joined a 30 day blogging challenge to keep me on my toes, and I've been taking baby steps towards my God-given dreams! In January, Roger & I made an intentional goal: to pray together. We had days where we had to make exceptions & skip out, but at every opportunity we could, we made it priority. We didn't beat ourselves up too much about the nights where we were just too tired. God honored that. In a month's time, we've definitely felt much more spiritually connected. Not just because we were praying together every night. But also because we've been super intentional with our own personal relationship with Jesus. Oh, what a difference it makes when we choose to fix our eyes on Him. Everything else, really does fall into its place. Last night, my husband said something that was profoundly true,...

Roger & I have been married for 10 years now and one thing we've definitely learned is that we need friendship. 2015 was a hard year, I mean, when is life nor marriage not hard? You'll always face new challenges. I wish someone would've told us on our wedding day how important it is to stay friends in your marriage.  I honestly don't know when we lost that important factor of our marriage, but I guess once marriage happened, it was all about figuring out how to make it through life.We stopped asking questions. Stopped getting to know each other & we began to just conform to this normality of what we thought marriage was supposed to be. A Relational Retirement.  Last year, Roger & I literally felt like we came to a point where our marriage was going to end. Not because someone cheated or because we didn't get along. Most people I know would probably conclude & compromise at the fact that they "fell out of love" with each other. For us...

“Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."- Matthew 6: 19-21 Have you ever heard well known Christian Artist, Toby Mac's song, "Lose My Soul"? This song played in my mind as I was attempting to clean up & declutter my so called walk-in closet. Ever feel completely overwhelmed over the fact that you've consumed so much that  you don't even know where to begin? "I don't want to gain the whole world & lose my soul.." Those were the lyrics that floated about my thoughts as I observed the overall area that most definitely needed some attention.  Truth be told, I got sick. Not literally but literally. I was so sick of how much I had hoarded over the years of my marriage. I mean I...

Sometimes, I fall into the trap of thinking that its okay to feel alone. Or maybe being alone is best. But over & over again, God reminds me of His heart for community. These past few days, my heart has been super heavy based on this topic. Is it selfish to desire a loving community? Is it wrong to surround yourself with positive influences? Do you ever feel like you're in an obligated relationship with your current community?  I love reading & learning more about how to become inspiring & influential. A lot of resources I've subscribed to or have skimmed through, talk a whole lot about filtering through the people you surround yourself with. Making healthy decisions for your relationships. I find this quite difficult actually. I don't want to hurt or offend anyone's feelings in the process of doing so. So, I guess I just never get around to it. I mean, there isn't really a handbook on how to surround yourself with positive & genuine loving pe...

January 1st. The first day of the year, Roger (my awesome husband) & I went out for coffee for the first time and made that our "2016 planning date". We've never really been that intentional about making plans together. We have casually pointed out a few resolutions we had & maybe even scribbled it onto a restaurant napkin or post-it note, but that's about it.  We've been married for 10 years going on 11 next month!!!!!  10  YEARS?!?!? Time surely does fly, but it's slow in the midst of it. 10 years is equivalent to a decade. I've dedicated & committed 10 years to him & him to me. The thing is though, that between all those years, we've never actually made it a priority for us to be intentional. With each other, with our family, or our friends. But, we've recently just really felt a movement of people moving in a more purposeful way of living. Enough with the impossible resolutions. Its more about making realistic goals. Settin...